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From starved connections to flourishing bonds
From starved connections to flourishing bonds
Understanding lonelines and Social isolation
Understanding lonelines and Social isolation
With the age of AI and increased breakdown of traditional social communities, many individuals find themselves battling loneliness. People lack sufficient social exposure from an early age partly due to the emergence of more reserved neighborhoods and families. For some, this extends into teenage years with the introduction of homeschooling, actions that do not train social skills in children, hence adults who have difficulties forming healthy relationships.
Loneliness is the feeling of not belonging coupled with a lack of meaningful social and emotional connections. This is a feeling that can persist even when in a social setting; likewise, someone can be alone but not feel lonely.
Social isolation is limited socialization, either by choice or through discrimination. One finds that they have few or no relationships and attend little or no events.
What are the causes of loneliness and social isolation?
What are the causes of loneliness and social isolation?
Unhealthy relationships- Getting good people that can be long-lasting friends is not easy in the modern world; people are full of vices and cannot be easily trusted. Many people, over time, with failed relationships and betrayals, decide that it is not worth it and stop trying to be social altogether.
Emotional issues- A person who lacks emotional awareness and stability cannot properly integrate with others. Some may feel insecure in their current state (battling anxiety) to open up to others. In retrospect, someone who doesn’t recognize their emotional flaws can find themselves being shunned in a social setup.
Hiding in the closet- People hide who they really are and are afraid if people saw that version of them, they would be judged, punished, or rejected. This is common with people on the queer spectrum or those battling with physical deformities and health issues like epilepsy.
Transitions- Moving to new environments like schools, homes, and jobs dictates leaving behind old friends and starting afresh to make new ones. The whole process might take a while before one identifies who and where they can fit in.
Introverted personality- There are people who naturally enjoy their own company. While there is nothing wrong with enjoying personal space, there is the risk of not building healthy or enough social connections that propel one into isolation.
Poor communication skills- Being unable to express oneself can thwart the process of making connections even in social settings. A person who finds themself unable to communicate due to shyness or fear of incoherent speech ends up being misunderstood and overlooked.
How to cope with loneliness and social Isolation
How to cope with loneliness and social Isolation
- Acknowledge and understand your situation
Accept that you are facing a loneliness problem and identify the root causes as to why. Name any emotions and feelings that are holding you back and define how you can overcome them.
For instance, you can identify that you have anxiety; a solution to that would be seeking professional help, taking your medication, and socializing with a softer group who have an understanding of your health condition before advancing to the larger population.
2. Put effort in building connections
2. Put effort in building connections
Identify already existing connections and strengthen them by being proactive in communication and attending planned meetups and activities. Consistency and proactiveness are key.
If in need of new friends and relationships, identify proper avenues where you can meet some (e.g., social initiatives and institutions). Once you’ve identified a community, begin by registering as a member or booking appointments, and be sure to engage in events and projects.
Participate in social activities
Participate in social activities
You don’t have to wait to be invited or attend club activities; start by joining any event open to the public and being an active participant.
Join online social forums and participate, sign up for competitions and marathons, attend game nights with strangers, or volunteer in animal shelters and children’s orphanages. Attend as many as you can and try to the best of your ability to come out with at least one person’s contact.
Practice self-care and growth
Practice self-care and growth
Feelings of loneliness can come about due to lack of self-worth. Take care of your body by being hygienic, performing simple exercise, and getting enough nutrition and rest.
Practice words of affirmation and gratitude consistently and map out your emotions, which eventually leads to emotional regulation and stability. Looking and feeling good boosts social confidence.
Seeking professional help
Seeking professional help
Deep internal or health issues like depression need more than personal effort to overcome. Seek therapy and join support groups to enhance both mental and emotional well-being.
For medical conditions like epilepsy, adhere to prescribed medication to keep it under control (infrequent seizures) and avoid it interfering with your interactions.
Remember! Accept and love yourself for who you are regardless of your social standing or appearance. Do not force connections where you have been shown or feel unheard, unwanted, or unappreciated; walk away with dignity. There is always a person or a group out there willing to accept you just the way you are.
FAQs (Frequently asked questions on loneliness)
FAQs (Frequently asked questions on loneliness)
Does chronic loneliness and isolation affect health?
Does chronic loneliness and isolation affect health?
Yes, loneliness affects certain hormones, like stress hormones, which leads to depression. These can also lead to inflammation and a weakened immune system.
How does loneliness show up in introverts and extroverts?
How does loneliness show up in introverts and extroverts?
For extroverts, loneliness comes about when they experience inadequate social interactions. For introverts, since they already enjoy solitude to a certain degree, their loneliness is experienced more like a lack of special bonds and meaningful relationships.
Is there any biological link to experiencing loneliness?
Is there any biological link to experiencing loneliness?
Yes. Differences in brain chemistry (neurotransmitter regulations and structure) and sensitivity to social norms and cues make some individuals prone to feelings of loneliness.
Can the mind be trained for solitude without experiencing loneliness?
Can the mind be trained for solitude without experiencing loneliness?
Absolutely. Solitude is sometimes needed as a reset and focus mechanism. This can be achieved through mindfulness, meditation, and solo hobbies, which still bring a sense of joy and fulfillment when done alone.
Can loneliness be contagious?
Can loneliness be contagious?
To some degree, yes. People who avoid interaction have an influence on their social circle and may sometimes end up eliciting the same feelings in others or affecting bonding sessions, thus driving connections apart.
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